You may or may not have noticed that the blog has been quiet for two weeks. Two weeks of “rest” in the least literal sense of the word. Birthdays were celebrated, teeth were grown, babies did or didn’t sleep and work forged on. But as a team, we took a step back because we knew that this space would still be here when we returned. Although there was some guilt and apologies muttered back and forth about our mom fails, we ultimately knew that this rest was needed and these feelings of guilt for taking time off was something we wanted to address.
It’s so easy to take a look at your past week and think, “I literally accomplished none of what I wanted to get done” and if that’s you today, I want you to know that you’re not alone. BUT and that’s a really BIG but, I also want you to know that your worth as a mom, a wife, an employee, girl boss, etc. is not based on your productivity. There I said it. The professional list maker is taking a stance- your to do list does not assign value to you as a human being. We often get sucked into the cycle of feeling like in order to live our best life, the way Instagram intended, that we need to hustle and to some extent that’s true but your hustle might not look the same from week to week. Sometimes taking a step back is what you need to propel yourself forward.
So that’s what we did. We took a step back and I’ve found myself doing that in more areas of my life than just our mommy blog endeavors. I’ve taken a step back from feeling like I have to constantly be working towards the next step in my career. I’ve always pushed myself to do the next thing, take the next opportunity or improve my credentials even when I didn’t know what I wanted to do (and most days still don’t). So I made the decision to take the summer to just enjoy where I’m at now and giving myself that permission to find peace in the present has lifted a huge weight off my shoulders. I’ve also taken a step back from the seven day a week workout grind I new so well but just wasn’t working for me when I transitioned into motherhood. I felt like I was failing if I wasn’t getting up at 5 a.m. or if I ever missed a day. So I went back to workout classes that I love, four days a week and force me to be social and require me to be away from Violet. This new level of accountability is what I felt like I needed, even if on paper it seems more complicated or time consuming that before. I’ve also taken a step back from trying to make everything perfect. If I don’t get the dog hair vacuumed up, then the world will still turn.
So in case you needed to hear this on a Friday, I’ve got your back. You are doing/being/feeling enough but if you feel like you’re stuck in the chaos, it’s okay to take a break. It’s okay to change your focus and it’s okay to try something new. You make the rules. Remember that.