Saying “No” so you can put yourself first

I don’t like to say no… Now, I’m not talking about to my toddler because we all know he hears that word A LOT. But you get it, right? Can you get this finished by Friday? Yes. Can you do dinner on Wednesday? Yes. Can you bake something for the potluck tomorrow? Yes. Can you design my friends sister’s wedding invitations? Yes… It’s easy to get stuck in the perpetual trap of saying yes but before we know it, we are putting ourselves and our families aside to accommodate others.

I love helping others, I really really do. And surrounding yourself with good friends who are willing to return your favors is so important. But sometimes we have to say no and that’s okay. Especially when it’s unlikely that your back will be scratched in return. Entering toddlerhood with our son really put a spotlight on this for me.

A toddler needs so much of your attention that you probably don’t even give yourself everything you need. I’m talking about crawling into bed without a shower because you’re too freaking tired, skipping lunch so you can take your babe to their doctor appointment, or reheating the same crappy cup of coffee 3 times because you haven’t been able to sit down and drink it. Forget pedicures, uninterrupted meals and warm coffee. Who has time for those anymore?! Can you see how adding all of those extra things to your schedule on top of your already busy life can really take away from not only your babe but yourself? Honey, you already come in last most days. Give yourself a BREAK!

Gone are the days that you could still make a lunch date or a shopping trip work because your baby would snooze in their little infant carseat and only wake for a bottle or diaper. Now you have this little personality that runs, throws food and decides for the whole household if it’s going to be an eating day or a non-eating day.

It’s okay to say yes, too. It’s fun to grab the babysitter and go out for dinner with friends or brave the restaurant with your kids on a good day. But you also don’t have to feel guilty if you want to stay home to catch up on laundry and not totally F up your child’s bedtime in the middle of the week. To each their own.

Long story short, it’s okay to say no. Because now you have this awesome excuse we call “children” and anyone who has kids of their own will understand when you have to say no. Don’t apologize or feel bad for putting your child or yourself first.

Say no to one thing this week and take time for yourself, you deserve it.


Refocusing After Vacation

If you follow either myself or @laurasmithwellness on Instagram, you know that we were on vacation in Mexico during the last part of February. We were fortunate enough to be gifted a family vacation by our parents who took us all down to Playa del Carmen for 8 days, babies and all. This was my first experience with all inclusive and boy did we enjoy it. All you can eat and any cuisine you can imagine, endless chips and guac and all the Bahama Mama’s & Paloma’s you could drink. We thoroughly enjoyed a break from cooking, working & any semblance of a routine.

Flash forward to a good ole’ fashioned Minnesota snow storm welcoming us back to reality. Vacation came to an abrupt halt and it was a bit of a struggle adjusting back to life as we knew it. Vacations are meant to be enjoyed but I came up with some tips to help ease you back to reality and get you back on track with your wellness lifestyle post-vacay.

Drink so much freaking water. 

You’d be amazed at what chugging some good old H2O can do to help clear your system and get you back on track. Kicking up your water intake will help replenish your cells from all that sugar & alcohol you consumed on the beach. Be prepared to pee SO FREAKING MUCH as your body adjusts. Everyone’s intake goals should be specific to them but get yourself a 24 oz water bottle and aim for 3-4 of those a day as a good baseline.

Pack in the veggies. 

You are an adult. Adults eat vegetables. I can’t help but laugh when I meet full grown adults who don’t eat their vegetables. Your body NEEDS these essential vitamins and minerals and you will feel 1000 times better when you consistently fuel your body with what it needs. Especially after a week of endless treats, filling your plate with fiber dense veggies will help you feel satisfied. When you’re satisfied you crave less sugar. It’s a win-win. With that being said, you need to find vegetables that you DO like. If you don’t like broccoli, try cauliflower or asparagus. If bolder flavors are your thing, try munching on some sweet baby peppers. If you can’t stomach raw veggies, toss them in a pan with some ghee or olive oil and garlic. Trust me. Eat. Your. Veggies.

Cut out the sugar. 

I know this one is easier said than done but your body responds to what you fuel it with. If you pack your body full of sugar, it will continue to crave sugar. So by cutting it out- just for a few days- you are giving yourself the opportunity to break that addiction and help you kick the cravings. Be mindful of the hidden sources of sugars like pressed juices, fresh fruit, and yogurts. You may feel like you’re making a better choice but these often have just as much sugar as a can of pop or candy bar.

Ease your way back into your fitness routine. 

While on vacation, we walked a lot but it was not the typical 30-40 minutes of heart pumping work that I was used to. That meant that even in a week, my conditioning was lessened. Do not sabotage yourself by going full boar into an intense cardio session, feel out of shape and then give up. Plan 3-5 workouts for your week, listen to your body and modify if necessary. Easing into your routine will help your body adjust and give you the energy boost you need to keep going.

Be kind  

Do not waste time feeling guilty about the foods and drinks you consumed a week ago. Vacation is supposed to be fun and that includes treats and foods you don’t typically reach for on a weekly basis. I want to challenge you to stop thinking about foods as “good” and “bad”. Instead think about how you want to feel and what foods will get you there. Be kind to yourself as you ease back into your routine and focus on one decision at a time to get you there.

Oh, and start planning your next vacation now.



Hi, I’m Laura.

Hi, I’m Laura. I’m the younger sister in this duo. I’m a creator but the kind that sits behind a computer and makes things pretty. Im not very public by nature, but very much enjoy connecting and collaborating with other people. I’m so glad you’re here!

I’m a mom, a wife, a graphic designer, a coffee guzzler, cheese lover. For years I have designed for others, branded businesses, created logos. I love what I do! But I have always aspired for more outside of my career. I think my sister Emily and I share that.

For years we have dreamt up big ideas together and collaborated in all aspects of our lives. From the beauty products we use, recipes we’ve tried, to raising our babies, we are constantly trying new things and learning from each other.

And that’s how we came up with the idea to start a blog. “Wellness” holds a different definition for everyone. It’s what works for you and makes you feel good. So were here to share what makes us feel good and we hope you will stop by every once and a while and find something pretty or useful to use in your everyday life.